There are many conversations happening in our world and in our churches about what it is to be human, specifically, to be male and to be female. There are queries on how these genders contrast and complement each other.

The conversations around domestic and family violence have cycled around this idea of being a “real man” or “manning up”. Unfortunately, these ideas are proving to do more harm than good. These ideas add fuel to the fire of this issue – an issue that deals with abuse of power and control. Being told you’re “not man enough”, is likely to only want to display masculinity further – which is often where the problem begins to escalate.