Relationships don’t begin on a wedding day. There are healthy habits which foster positive, growing relationships form the beginning; there are unhealthy habits that fester into poor, and in the worst case, abusive, relationships.
Signs of a healthy relationship include:
- Having more good times in the relationship than bad
- Having a life outside the relationship, with your own friends and activities
- Making decisions together, with each partner compromising at times
- Dealing with conflicts by talking honestly
- Feeling comfortable and able to be yourself
- Feeling able to take care of yourself
- Feeling like your partner supports you
Signs of an unhealthy relationship include:
- Focusing all your energy on your partner
- Dropping friends and family or activities you enjoy
- Feeling pressured or controlled a lot
- Having more bad times in the relationship than good
- Feeling sad or scared when with your partner
Addressing relationship issues is vital to the health of a partnership. It’s never too early to start shaping the kind of relationship you want to have and avoid entering into patterns of violence. Why not take the above dot points as a chance to evaluate your relationship? If you find yourself and your partner aligning more with the ‘healthy relationships’ section – keep going, you’re doing well. If you find that you are resonating more with the ‘unhealthy relationships’ section, maybe it’s time for a tune up, or more serious action.
If you want to get your marriage on track, your church is likely to have information about course in your area that can help with this. If you aren’t yet married, your minister or pastor will take you through programs that will help you prepare to get married, or make a choice that might be hard now, but better for your future.
EXPERTS: Are there any suggestions, programs we can link to here? People will be saying: how do we promote these kind of relationships?