Signs of abuse vary depending on the type of abuse, but the following are some of the key indicators of unhealthy, and potentially dangerous, habits in intimate partnerships. 

The following may be signs you are in an abusive relationship, if a partner:

  • Monitors what you're doing all the time
  • Unfairly accuses you of being unfaithful all the time
  • Prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family, or from going to work or school
  • Gets very angry during and after drinking alcohol or using drugs
  • Controls how you spend your money
  • Controls your use of needed medicines
  • Controls things that should be in your control (like what to wear or eat)
  • Humiliates you or insults you in front of others
  • Blames you for his or her violent outbursts
  • Destroys your property or things, purposefully or accidentally in a rage
  • Threatens to hurt you, the children or pets – with or without a weapon
  • Hurts you (by hitting, beating, pushing, shoving, punching, slapping, kicking, biting or using a weapon)
  • Hurts your children or pets
  • Forces you to have sex against your will (even if you are married or in a committed relationship, sex must NOT be forced)
  • Controls your birth control or insists that you get pregnant
  • Threatens to harm himself or herself when upset with you
  • Says things like, "If I can't have you then no one can."

Do you need support?

The following Domestic and Family Violence support services are available: