Day 7: When Speaking on Behalf of God is Risky
Josh Dowton, Executive Pastor at Northside Baptist Church, shares how being in church leadership is risky if it becomes a form of control and coercion.
Dr Jenny Richards’ blog invites Christians to consider bringing faith and law together as part of our response to address domestic and family violence.
DR JENNY RICHARDS
Most of what we hear about coercive control focuses on how the criminal law may address this common form of domestic and family violence. Viewing it through the lens of its criminality may obscure a key truth: coercive control, like other forms of domestic and family violence, raises issues of faith as well as law. How can Christians navigate this twin reality?
One answer may lie in the perspective we bring to how faith and law operate in this space.
Collaboration between faith leaders and Domestic and Family Violence workers is seen as best practice in prevention and pastoral responses, and work targeting damaging theological beliefs which are weaponised against women to justify and minimise domestic violence is ongoing.
What might it take for those collaborations to extend to questions of justice?
My own research indicates that one key to a faith-law collaboration is to recognise that a justice response and a faith response to coercive control can be held together. They are not two alternatives between which women must choose. It’s easy to view them that way. It’s common to see the justice system as secular, located ‘outside of’ the church. It’s also common to view forgiveness as inconsistent with justice system involvement.
After all, one might wonder, ‘how can I have my husband thrown in jail if I am supposed to be forgiving him?’
This question reflects two common misconceptions. The first is that the justice system centres on punishment and is thus inconsistent with Christian teachings about forgiveness. The second is that forgiveness can be disconnected from other teachings and itself encapsulates the ‘Christian’ response to coercive control.
Christians believe human beings are profoundly dignified in the humanity of Jesus. A view of justice which reflects women’s dignity as made in the image of God has immense potential for healing and restoration here. Theologically, justice is also a critical part of a Christian response to domestic and family violence.
This affirmation is reflected in the justice system. When theological beliefs are used to minimise and condone domestic and family violence the denunciation of such violence inherent in the criminal law speaks volumes. Both faith and legal understandings of justice denounce all forms of domestic and family violence, recognising and vindicating women’s worth and personhood. Both allow relational considerations, rehabilitation, reparation and remorse to be considered also.
A faith-law lens reveals:
A justice system response is not an alternative or parallel to a faith response. Instead, it’s a potential part of a Christian response to domestic and family violence and coercive control for women. There are many reasons women may decide not to engage with the justice system – it is certainly flawed - but care must be taken to ensure that believing it’s a ‘less Christian’ option is not one of them.
‘They have dressed the wounds of my people as though they are not serious. ‘Peace, Peace’, they say, where there is no peace’. Jeremiah 6:14
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Dr Jenny Richards is a Lecturer in Law in the College of Business Government and Law at Flinders University, and former criminal lawyer. She is a member of the Anglican Diocese of Adelaide Domestic and Family Violence Working Group, and is a co-opted Board member of the Disability Rights Advocacy Service of South Australia. Her PhD, ‘Embodied Justice: An Integrated Faith-Law Response for Christian Women Experiencing Domestic and Family Violence in Australia’ (Flinders University, Jan 2024) considers ways in which church leaders can hold law and faith considerations together when addressing domestic and family violence.
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Confronting Coercive Control is Common Grace's daily blog series during 16 Days of Activism Against Gender-Based Violence, 25 November to 10 December 2024.
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Josh Dowton, Executive Pastor at Northside Baptist Church, shares how being in church leadership is risky if it becomes a form of control and coercion.
Erica Mandi Manga reflects on non-coercive pastoral care by looking at Mark 10:51 and Jesus' response in creating a space for Bartimaeus to articulate his own needs.
Kristine Vicca, of Irish and Torres Strait Island descent, and a survivor-advocate of domestic violence, shares her story of experiencing coercive control, and her journey to healing and recovery.
Dr Jenny Richards’ blog invites Christians to consider bringing faith and law together as part of our response to address domestic and family violence.
Steve Frost, founder of Horizons Family Law Centre, shares about the legal processes for addressing coercive control.
Todd Darvas, Pastor at H3O and family lawyer, demonstrates how the love of Christ is made tangible for women experiencing coercive control when restorative justice is embedded into the life of the local church.
Debbie spent 25 years in a marriage, that to her surprise, she now understands to be coercive control. Her decision to leave her marriage was not an easy one, but one that helped her on her way towards healing.
Naomi Escott, from Banksia Women shares how their acts as Jesus’ hands and feet, providing agency, love, and support without expectation to women who have experienced coercive control.
Social worker and educator, Carolyn Cousins, explores how to be a safe church for women to disclose their abuse and how churches can model healthy relationships as a form of prevention of coercive control.
Gershon Nimbalker shares his vision for households, churches and our nation to be safe, where relationships reflect the love and wholeness God intends for them.